Do you want success without working more? Fear not, anyway you shouldn’t add extra working hours in your schedule to have success!
Then, what’s the secret of being very efficient in your professional life? Continue reading and you’ll find out what it takes to get there!
It is very important to set healthy boundaries with everyone (and more important: with yourself!). Don’t let yourself, someone dear to you, or even your boss, colleagues, or employers eat up your precious energy!
But healthy boundaries are your shield of protection for personal-professional equilibrium and a must in building strong and healthy relationships with others.
Here’s a practical guide:
- Identify your limits (physical, emotional, spiritual, and mental). And respect them! You’ll never feel drained again.
- Tune in to feelings. Resentment, energy loss, or uneasiness are signs of crossed boundaries!
- Recognize the boundary through self-awareness. You’ll identify fast what kind of limit has been crossed if you’re thinking what gave you the feeling of being bothered: the time of the day someone contacted you, the method of contact, and so on…
- Be direct. Don’t just wait for somebody to realize how and why they upset you. Communicate your expectations!
- Be assertive. Be firm, gracious, and direct. And don’t give in! This will destroy the maintenance of your boundaries.
- Start small, so you won’t feel overwhelmed and quit establishing boundaries.
- Grant permission and encouragement to yourself to say “No”.
- Enlist support. If you find setting boundaries too difficult, seek support from a friend, life coach, counselor, or therapist.
- Make personal time a priority. For example, while off working hours, cut everything related to your business/job.
Holowaychuk M. is right, keeping healthy boundaries bring only win-win situations.
I would have to add just: “No is a complete sentence.”
Now, let’s get from general to specific and see exactly how to be more effective on-the-tasks.
Get the right timing for your tasks
Know yourself, invest time in the right actions according to your internal clock and plan your next day with a “to-do list”. Self-management is a combination of discipline, focus, and purpose.
And be honest with yourself in the matter of what’s the best time for YOUR productiveness (morning, late night, etc.)!
By far, the most important: stop the unnecessary and frivolous!
Of course, nobody is telling you not to chill out (for example, with checking your email, spending time on social media platforms, or watching TV).
But if your goal is to be successful, you should plan how much time you can give to these kind of activities and when is the right time for them. In general, this means when your brain wants some relaxation, not when it’s at its maximum capacity. You should use these hours for more important activities.
For sure, you feel most awake at some specific hours in the day. So choose to do the important tasks then, that’s when you’ll do more in less time!
Aaaand of course, something that really can’t be missing from this article…
I know, there are plenty of articles all over the internet and there are tons of books about it. I won’t go very much in details, so bare with me.
What is time-management?
“behaviors that aim at achieving an effective use of time while performing certain goal-directed activities”Claessens &co, 2007
On all timelines: past, present, and future.
The benefits of good time-management are that you’ll have a better performance, lower stress levels, and better control of your behavior related to proximal outcomes.
How to “Time Management”?
I found a lovely study written in 1997, by Dobbins and Pettman. The recommendations of the authors are:
- Set goals
- Believe that you manage your time well
- Set good time management as a goal
- Be honest with yourself
- Set priorities
- Continue with your self-development
- Make lists
- Make plans
- Identify your most common time wasters
- Organize your workspace
- Be excellent at delegation
- Take high risks with your time
- Take time to read
- Identify and focus on your key result areas
- Overcome procrastination
- Organize effective meetings
- Control interruptions
- Develop blocks of time for specific tasks
- Batch your tasks
- Do one job at a time to completion
- Memorize the following slogans
And here, at point 21, they made a list of 28 useful statements when faced with time management situations. Some examples are:
- “We all tend to make the work fit the time, and pretend that we are busy.”
- “Positive emotions give you energy, negative emotions drain you of energy.”
- “Only action gets results”
Now, back to Claessens and her colleagues, they also found out that even though time-management helps you with your performances if you are a student, it’s not enough for employees. Of course, time management is important if you have a job, but it’s just not enough.
If you are working and you want to have high job-related performances, it is very important to work on your motivations in parallel! The emphasis is more on the intrinsic motivation than on the extrinsic ones.
So, there was the secret: healthy boundaries and good time-management make you more efficient!
I kindly invite you to let your opinion and some of your recommendations in the comment section!
Claessens, B. J. C., van Eerde, W., Rutte, C. G., & Roe, R. A. (2007). A review of the time management literature. Personnel Review, 36(2), 255–276. https://doi.org/10.1108/00483480710726136
Dobbins, R., & Pettman, B. O. (1997). Self‐development: the nine basic skills for business success. Journal of Management Development, 16(8), 521–667. https://doi.org/10.1108/02621719710174011
Holowaychuk, M. (n.d.). Setting Boundaries to Protect Personal Time. Retrieved June 24, 2020, from https://marieholowaychuk.com/wp-content/uploads/2019/11/Setting-Boundaries-to-Protect-Personal-Time-by-Dr-Marie-Holowaychuk.pdf