“It’s better to be alone than in bad company” used to say George Washington without any pun intended, my guess, although according to new findings even Nostradamus predicted this pandemic with a closer eye over our territory.
Saying that is now, more or less self-imposed, applicable to all of us. But how does lockdown affect our mood in terms of intimate and implicitly personal relationships such as couple strains? Some say acting as there’s no killing coronavirus around does good for the health of both partners and for maintaining a happy inner pace. So, for keeping the ship afloat, we should stick to ‘manageable versions of the truth’ and to ‘honesty’, ‘talking’, ‘no secrets’, all this on the same ‘secure base’ established from the very beginning.
Nevertheless, an ‘undeniable presumptuous presumption’, as famous Bridget Jones who went forward into our lives as more than a complex and hilarious character used to say, fraudulently insinuates in our ‘simple’ minds: coronavirus will break our relationship sooner than we’ll realize it.
One easy thing to do in order to avoid the damage this virus together with all its repercussions could bring along would be having the talk about the time spent together and apart, as with limited options and restrains to go out this issue usually causes stress and discussions. While for the intimate thing, oxytocin, “the happiness hormone”, is still secreted by our bodies, so we shouldn’t worry too much about it.
Secondly, when together, you could prioritize topics and entertain yourselves with dates-in, games, sports etc. Practical habits such as cooking could also drive positive impulses and represent quality time spent together.
As for the less privileged ones, long-distance relationships being anyway harder to manage, online dating and making plans over the phone could also keep the relationship alive.